The sad thing about sexist geeks is that they ultimately
believed what society told them to oppress them. They believed that it's
OK to shun people because you don't understand what they are about,
it's OK to shun everything Other. I mean, come to think about that. You
are a geek. You have been called 'faggot' for your interests and for
caring so much about a 'stupid' comic book. You have been told you
aren't a real man, and are wasting your time on stuff that doesn't
matter. And it made you sad and lonely and you fought through it,
because you have been taught it's OK to suffer. I am sorry about that.But what do you do when someone makes a comment about how your culture
makes them feel and takes the time to analyze patterns in it?
You go around and tell them they're wasting their time on stuff that doesn't matter. Stop it. You don't know. You don't know how other people feel - as is very strongly evidenced by how your culture treats Others. The protagonist you identify with is mostly real, the other characters are props. It is great that you got to tell your story, but this story is lacking when it comes to other narratives. Because it couldn't be any other way, unless you consciously exercised your empathy muscle. Let the other people fill in their narratives.
You go around and tell them they're wasting their time on stuff that doesn't matter. Stop it. You don't know. You don't know how other people feel - as is very strongly evidenced by how your culture treats Others. The protagonist you identify with is mostly real, the other characters are props. It is great that you got to tell your story, but this story is lacking when it comes to other narratives. Because it couldn't be any other way, unless you consciously exercised your empathy muscle. Let the other people fill in their narratives.
You don't know how I felt,
growing up in a world where everything pink is inferior. You don't know
how I came to not care about how I look, despite that. My story and her
story and his story, are important. And you are not the protagonist,
because you couldn't possibly be.